Justin Kung

Justin Kung

 

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Master of Counselling, Monash University, HK.

Languages: English & Cantonese. 

Justin’s professional background spans 10+ years in roles across journalism, digital production, career coaching and innovation consultation before completing a Master of Counselling degree and qualifying as a mental health counsellor in 2020. Throughout his shifts across industries, he has always focused on working with people to be the best versions of themselves, whether that meant telling a clearer story, creating a better product or implementing a better solution. Justin is driven by his own experiences, both as a seeker and as a provider of mental health support, to help those struggling to harness the strengths and weaknesses in their mental well-being. He has worked with over 400 clients in one-to-one environments across advising, coaching and counselling work.

Academic and Professional Qualifications:

  • Bachelor of Arts, Psychology and Economics, Wesleyan University
  • Master of Counselling, Monash University
  • Member, Asian Professional Counselling and Psychology Association
  • International Member, Australian Counselling Association

 

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Nimishaa Mohinani

Nimishaa Mohinani

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Master of Counselling, Monash University, HK.

Languages: English.

As a counsellor, Nimishaa wants to empower her clients with a greater understanding of themselves as well as tools they may need to enhance their own well-being.

Nimishaa believes counselling sessions are a collaborative and safe space for clients to explore their challenges as well as to learn strategies to enhance their experience of life. She uses an integrative approach that includes Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), and mindfulness techniques.

Nimishaa has been working in the area of mental health and well-being for several years. She began her career in Industrial-Organizational psychology and specializes in leadership training and resilience coaching. Early on in her career, she realized that she had a passion for supporting people’s self-growth and wanted to further develop as a counsellor. This led Nimishaa to acquire a Masters in Counselling at Monash University.

Education & Qualifications:

  • Monash University, Australia – Masters of Counselling
  • The Chinese University of Hong Kong – Masters of Philosophy in Industrial-Organizational Psychology
  • Tufts University, MA, U.S.A – Bachelors of Psychology
  • Youth Mental First Aid (YMFA) certificate
  • Member: HK Society of Counselling & Psychology (HKSCP)

Find out more about counselling here.      If you have any questions, feel free to contact us here.

A free 20-minute intro consultation is available for new clients. Please email office@amindset.hk for more details.

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Nimishaa Mohinani

Nimishaa Mohinani

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Master of Counselling, Monash University, HK.

Languages: English.

As a counsellor, Nimishaa wants to empower her clients with a greater understanding of themselves as well as tools they may need to enhance their own well-being.

Nimishaa believes counselling sessions are a collaborative and safe space for clients to explore their challenges as well as to learn strategies to enhance their experience of life. She uses an integrative approach that includes Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT), and mindfulness techniques.

Nimishaa has been working in the area of mental health and well-being for several years. She began her career in Industrial-Organizational psychology and specializes in leadership training and resilience coaching. Early on in her career, she realized that she had a passion for supporting people’s self-growth and wanted to further develop as a counsellor. This led Nimishaa to acquire a Masters in Counselling at Monash University.

Education & Qualifications:

  • Monash University, Australia – Masters of Counselling
  • The Chinese University of Hong Kong – Masters of Philosophy in Industrial-Organizational Psychology
  • Tufts University, MA, U.S.A – Bachelors of Psychology
  • Youth Mental First Aid (YMFA) certificate
  • Member: HK Society of Counselling & Psychology (HKSCP)

Nimishaa offers counselling sessions in English.

  • A free 20-minute intro consultation is available for new clients. Please email office@amindset.hk for more details
  • Discounted packages of 4 are available via the links below

Find out more about counselling here.      If you have any questions, feel free to contact us here.

 

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Elise Phillipson

Elise Phillipson

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Psychotherapist and Group Counsellor.

Languages: English, German and Dutch. 

  • Are you feeling weighed down by the pain and anger of your past family dynamics, your parents’ divorce, even though it happened years ago, for example?
  • Do you feel like you have to be perfect all the time because of the constant criticism from your parents growing up? 
  • Do you struggle with expressing your feelings and setting boundaries in your relationships? 
  • Are unresolved issues from childhood causing tension and arguments in your adult relationships? 
  • Is your life negatively impacted by an over-dependence on alcohol or drugs?
  • As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, have you faced rejection and judgment from your family and society?

It’s okay to feel this way. You are not alone. In fact, many people struggle with the after-effects of negative experiences, past and present, which can lead to depression, anxiety, and anger issues.

It’s not uncommon to carry unresolved childhood trauma into adulthood, impacting every aspect of your life. But there is hope for healing. Through a psychodynamic and psychoanalytic approach, we can work through these emotions and find ways to cope and move forward.

Communication is key in any relationship, but it can be especially challenging when you’ve grown up in a social and family environment that didn’t communicate effectively. If you struggle to express your own needs and boundaries, I can help you learn how to communicate more effectively and build stronger relationships.

Betrayals and broken promises can make it hard to trust others and be vulnerable. But it’s important to remember that not everyone is the same. Together, we can work on building trust and learning how to open up in a safe and supportive environment.

As a psychotherapist working with a range of modalities, I can help you work through life’s challenges which will enable you to find a path towards healthier relationships, at a professional and personal level. 

If you’re worried about being judged or misunderstood, please know that I provide a safe and non-judgmental space for all my clients. 

I also have worked extensively with the LBBTQ+ community and can understand the unique challenges and experiences you may face. I can provide a space where you can feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings so you can work through the trauma of rejection, judgment and misunderstandings and learn how to accept and love yourself for who you are.

I understand the challenges you’re facing, and I want to help you break free from the unhealthy patterns of your past. Together, we can explore the root causes of these patterns, work through the unresolved trauma and conflicts that are holding you back and find ways to create new, healthier habits to help you live your best life, creating intergenerational change. 

Together, we’ll help you overcome feelings of insecurity and unworthiness, and learn how to express your needs, boundaries, and emotions in healthy ways.

And please don’t worry about dredging up painful memories from your past. We’ll move at your pace and create a safe and supportive environment for you to express your feelings without fear of judgment or misunderstanding.

I understand that some people may be hesitant to seek therapy, but my approach is different. I use a psychodynamic and psychoanalytic approach, which means I’ll help you uncover the root of your problems, and we’ll work through them together.

I understand that seeking therapy can be daunting, but it’s important to prioritize your mental health and well-being. If you’ve had bad experiences with therapy in the past, I invite you to give it another try with me. My goal is to create a safe and non-judgmental space where you can feel heard and supported.

Don’t let your past family dynamics hold you back any longer. Let’s work together towards a happier and healthier future.

I know that time and money can be a concern, but investing in your mental health is an investment in yourself and your future.

If you’re ready to break free from the weight of your past and create a brighter future, don’t let your objections hold you back from getting the help you need. Let’s work together towards a happier and more fulfilling future. 

I offer flexible scheduling options and affordable rates to make therapy accessible to everyone. 

About Elise

I am a psychotherapist who is committed to helping those going through transitions in their lives – voluntary or involuntary – and including LGBTQ+ communities. Using different counselling modalities, I help you learn how to accept and embrace change, look forward and build or discover new opportunities. I believe in working with you and in taking a collaborative approach to help you alleviate your troubles and to reach your goals (usually in around 12 sessions). If you want or need to go deeper, we can take our time and look at the root causes of your hurt and pain, using psychotherapeutic methods, including psychodynamics, psychoanalysis and existential therapy.

I work from the premise that there are external and internal influences that create how we live in and react to the world. That it is a mix of both as creative beliefs that we are not good enough, carrying the burdens and behaviours of the past, that we are somehow broken, not worthy, or at fault. These beliefs create behaviour and thinking patterns that are there to prove to ourselves that these beliefs are right.

As a psychotherapist, it is my role in your life to create a safe, supported space for you to help you, as the expert in your life, to unravel the origins of these beliefs and see if they still apply. 

The therapeutic process is built on trust, unconditional positive regard and compassionate, open-minded listening from the therapist. It is the therapeutic relationship that will be of most benefit to you and therefore therapy will be geared towards your wants, needs and preferences.

I use a wide range of therapeutic modalities to work with you, as I believe that as each person is unique, there is no one-size-fits-all therapy. When we work through your issues or trauma, I apply and adapt Psychodynamic Therapy, Psychoanalytic Therapy, Internal Family Systems Therapy, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Dialectic Behaviour Therapy, and other focused psychological strategies.

I also facilitate group counselling, in which I work with women going through the [peri-]menopause who are looking for support as I go through this prolonged, impactful change. To join, or find out more about these groups, please schedule a free 20 minute initial assessment by emailing office@mindset.hk.

I am Dutch but born in Germany and raised in Hong Kong, so I had a multicultural, tri-lingual upbringing. My background is in the service industry and in teaching, applicable parts of which influence my psychotherapy methods.

Professional Registrations and Memberships:

I have the following professional memberships/registrations:

  • Hong Kong – Registered with the Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association and associate member of the Psychotherapy Society of Hong Kong.
  • Australia – Certified Practicing Counsellor (Level 2) registered with the Australian Counselling Association.
  • United Kingdom – Registered graduate member of the British Psychology Society.

Core Psychology and Psychotherapy Qualifications:

Batchelor of Science (Honours) Psychology with Counselling, First, Open University,  United Kingdom

Master of Counselling, Monash University, Australia

Specialist Training:

I have undertaken and am currently following specialist training from the following institutions: Beck Institute (USA), Internal Family Systems Institute (USA), Pink Therapy (UK), Mental Health Academy (Australia) and Tavistock and Portman, NHS Foundation Trust (UK). 

This gives me the knowledge and skill to work in a range of specialisations and issues:

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Distress resulting from
    • dysfunctional upbringing.
    • Trauma
  • Self-esteem and self-belief issues.
  • Anger (and Violence)
  • Life events: bereavement, divorce, empty nest, menopause to name a few

Elise offers counselling sessions in English, German and Dutch.

If you have any questions, feel free to contact us here.

  • A free 20-minute intro consultation is available for new clients. Please email office@amindset.hk for more details
  • Discounted packages of 4 are available via the links below

 

Schedule Appointment

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Packages must be used within 12 weeks of the first booking

 

Elise Phillipson

Elise Phillipson – Dubai

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Psychotherapist and Group Counsellor.

Languages: English, German and Dutch. 

  • Are you feeling weighed down by the pain and anger of your past family dynamics, your parents’ divorce, even though it happened years ago, for example?
  • Do you feel like you have to be perfect all the time because of the constant criticism from your parents growing up? 
  • Do you struggle with expressing your feelings and setting boundaries in your relationships? 
  • Are unresolved issues from childhood causing tension and arguments in your adult relationships? 
  • Is your life negatively impacted by an over-dependence on alcohol or drugs?
  • As a member of the LGBTQ+ community, have you faced rejection and judgment from your family and society?

It’s okay to feel this way. You are not alone. In fact, many people struggle with the after-effects of negative experiences, past and present, which can lead to depression, anxiety, and anger issues.

It’s not uncommon to carry unresolved childhood trauma into adulthood, impacting every aspect of your life. But there is hope for healing. Through a psychodynamic and psychoanalytic approach, we can work through these emotions and find ways to cope and move forward.

Communication is key in any relationship, but it can be especially challenging when you’ve grown up in a social and family environment that didn’t communicate effectively. If you struggle to express your own needs and boundaries, I can help you learn how to communicate more effectively and build stronger relationships.

Betrayals and broken promises can make it hard to trust others and be vulnerable. But it’s important to remember that not everyone is the same. Together, we can work on building trust and learning how to open up in a safe and supportive environment.

As a psychotherapist working with a range of modalities, I can help you work through life’s challenges which will enable you to find a path towards healthier relationships, at a professional and personal level. 

If you’re worried about being judged or misunderstood, please know that I provide a safe and non-judgmental space for all my clients. 

I also have worked extensively with the LBBTQ+ community and can understand the unique challenges and experiences you may face. I can provide a space where you can feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings so you can work through the trauma of rejection, judgment and misunderstandings and learn how to accept and love yourself for who you are.

I understand the challenges you’re facing, and I want to help you break free from the unhealthy patterns of your past. Together, we can explore the root causes of these patterns, work through the unresolved trauma and conflicts that are holding you back and find ways to create new, healthier habits to help you live your best life, creating intergenerational change. 

Together, we’ll help you overcome feelings of insecurity and unworthiness, and learn how to express your needs, boundaries, and emotions in healthy ways.

And please don’t worry about dredging up painful memories from your past. We’ll move at your pace and create a safe and supportive environment for you to express your feelings without fear of judgment or misunderstanding.

I understand that some people may be hesitant to seek therapy, but my approach is different. I use a psychodynamic and psychoanalytic approach, which means I’ll help you uncover the root of your problems, and we’ll work through them together.

I understand that seeking therapy can be daunting, but it’s important to prioritize your mental health and well-being. If you’ve had bad experiences with therapy in the past, I invite you to give it another try with me. My goal is to create a safe and non-judgmental space where you can feel heard and supported.

Don’t let your past family dynamics hold you back any longer. Let’s work together towards a happier and healthier future.

I know that time and money can be a concern, but investing in your mental health is an investment in yourself and your future.

If you’re ready to break free from the weight of your past and create a brighter future, don’t let your objections hold you back from getting the help you need. Let’s work together towards a happier and more fulfilling future. 

I offer flexible scheduling options and affordable rates to make therapy accessible to everyone. 

About Elise

I am a psychotherapist who is committed to helping those going through transitions in their lives – voluntary or involuntary – and including LGBTQ+ communities. Using different counselling modalities, I help you learn how to accept and embrace change, look forward and build or discover new opportunities. I believe in working with you and in taking a collaborative approach to help you alleviate your troubles and to reach your goals (usually in around 12 sessions). If you want or need to go deeper, we can take our time and look at the root causes of your hurt and pain, using psychotherapeutic methods, including psychodynamics, psychoanalysis and existential therapy.

I work from the premise that there are external and internal influences that create how we live in and react to the world. That it is a mix of both as creative beliefs that we are not good enough, carrying the burdens and behaviours of the past, that we are somehow broken, not worthy, or at fault. These beliefs create behaviour and thinking patterns that are there to prove to ourselves that these beliefs are right.

As a psychotherapist, it is my role in your life to create a safe, supported space for you to help you, as the expert in your life, to unravel the origins of these beliefs and see if they still apply. 

The therapeutic process is built on trust, unconditional positive regard and compassionate, open-minded listening from the therapist. It is the therapeutic relationship that will be of most benefit to you and therefore therapy will be geared towards your wants, needs and preferences.

I use a wide range of therapeutic modalities to work with you, as I believe that as each person is unique, there is no one-size-fits-all therapy. When we work through your issues or trauma, I apply and adapt Psychodynamic Therapy, Psychoanalytic Therapy, Internal Family Systems Therapy, Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, Dialectic Behaviour Therapy, and other focused psychological strategies.

I also facilitate group counselling, in which I work with women going through the [peri-]menopause who are looking for support as I go through this prolonged, impactful change. To join, or find out more about these groups, please schedule a free 20 minute initial assessment by emailing office@mindset.hk.

I am Dutch but born in Germany and raised in Hong Kong, so I had a multicultural, tri-lingual upbringing. My background is in the service industry and in teaching, applicable parts of which influence my psychotherapy methods.

Professional Registrations and Memberships:

I have the following professional memberships/registrations:

  • Hong Kong – Registered with the Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association and associate member of the Psychotherapy Society of Hong Kong.
  • Australia – Certified Practicing Counsellor (Level 2) registered with the Australian Counselling Association.
  • United Kingdom – Registered graduate member of the British Psychology Society.

Core Psychology and Psychotherapy Qualifications:

Batchelor of Science (Honours) Psychology with Counselling, First, Open University,  United Kingdom

Master of Counselling, Monash University, Australia

Specialist Training:

I have undertaken and am currently following specialist training from the following institutions: Beck Institute (USA), Internal Family Systems Institute (USA), Pink Therapy (UK), Mental Health Academy (Australia) and Tavistock and Portman, NHS Foundation Trust (UK). 

This gives me the knowledge and skill to work in a range of specialisations and issues:

  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Distress resulting from
    • dysfunctional upbringing.
    • Trauma
  • Self-esteem and self-belief issues.
  • Anger (and Violence)
  • Life events: bereavement, divorce, empty nest, menopause to name a few

Elise offers counselling sessions in English, German and Dutch.

If you have any questions, feel free to contact us here.

  • A free 20-minute intro consultation is available for new clients. Please email office@amindset.hk for more details
  • Discounted packages of 4 are available via the links below

 

Book Ind Appointment

Book Couples Appointment

Package of 4 Ind Sessions

Package of 4 Couples Sessions

 

Packages must be used within 12 weeks of the first booking

 

Saying Goodbye

Saying Goodbye

We’ve all been through a time when the world seemed dull and hopeless after experiencing a loss – regardless of whether they’re family, friends or simply an individual of great significance to us. People experience loss in a multitude of ways beyond the passing of a loved one; we grieve at the end of a relationship, a permanent change in appearance, a passing life stage, or simply anything that we can never again regain or revisit. Due to the cyclic nature of life, we deal with grief constantly. Some of them are more gradual and less noticeable like ageing, while others may be more unexpected and sudden like the death of a loved one.

Grief affects us in ways beyond both physical and emotional pain. The five stages of grief modelled by Elisabeth Kübler-Ross concluded that the five major emotions experienced during grief were denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance (Kübler-Ross & Kessler, 2014). This model was based on her work on patients with terminal illnesses, suggesting that these five stages were more applicable to people facing their own existential crises rather than those who were grieving. But in practice, we find that the five stages were also shown in grief clients despite the lack of linearity of graphical evidence. Most of the time these emotions are interwoven with many others, including guilt and fear. Beyond emotional responses, the process of grief also includes natural physical responses like sleeplessness, appetite loss, and a weakened immune system. But with proper coping mechanisms, these responses can be alleviated with time, allowing you to feel more prepared to make peace with it. 

Grief is a personal and subjective process, and coping mechanisms vary amongst people, so there is no norm or timetable to abide by. In most cases, people can process and resume their day-to-day functions after a certain period of time. However, in more severe cases (i.e., the loss of a romantic partner, the loss of a parent, the loss of a grandparent) we find it overwhelming. Especially if such grief was complex or unresolved (for example through sudden life changes, traumatic events, or unresolved issues with the deceased). During Covid-19, these situations were more prevalent than ever before. One of my friends was unable to complete quarantine in time to see his beloved family member in the hospital for the last time. Another one was unable to enter Hong Kong due to Covid-19 restrictions and had missed the last call from his father before he passed in the ICU. 

In sessions, we sometimes find people still struggling with loss even after many years due to the build-up of pain over time in addition to mental challenges stemming from grief, including difficulties in emotion regulation or disassociation. Such challenges can become debilitating as individuals often do not even realise that grief is still affecting them. Clinically, the prevalence of prolonged grief disorder (PGD) was found in approximately 9.8% of bereaved adults in the population. Of the adults suffering from PGD, the symptoms they experienced consisted of intense preoccupation with the deceased, persistent distress, detached or numbed emotion, inability to trust others, and avoidance of the reality of loss (Rosner et al, 2018). 

However, there are many ways to make it easier to cope with grief. If you are currently grieving, there are a multitude of things that may help you navigate this time:

  • Know That You Are Not Alone

Because there was love, there will be pain. Whenever there is a start, there will be an end. As the pain of loss is natural and inevitable, no one can live without going through it. But rather than fearing it, try to remember that it is possible to have an easier relationship with the pain of the loss by allowing ourselves to feel it.

  • Talk About Your Feelings

If you feel that you are struggling with grief, resistance or avoidance will not lift the burden. Instead it may cause unnecessary frustration. Try to express and share your feelings though they are difficult. It will aid your grieving progress. Begin to share these thoughts with your support system, address them in a journal, and find your emotional outlet. 

  • Share Your Memories

Share your memories to alleviate fear of forgetting them. Recalling and sharing the memories with those you surround yourself with can bring you a sense of peace amidst this painful time. The most memorable moment during the funeral of a loved one is the sharing of cherished memories with the people who share our pain. These moments may remind us of the fragility of life and how despite the fact that we are mortal, the love we have is eternal. 

  • Find Ways to Remain Connected With Your Loved One 

You can still connect with those who are no longer with us. I have seen many post-it memos placed along the surface of a tombstone by a wife or a grandchild, each inscribed with a message yearning for their beloved husband or grandfather’s embrace one last time. While others may play songs they used to listen to together, or plant a tree to symbolise their everlasting life. These things serve as a reminder to us that despite our loved one not being physically with us, they are here with us in spirit. 

  • Prioritise Yourself

Everyone grieves at their own pace. To find the best way to heal you have to take care and prioritise yourself. If you feel like crying, cry it out. If you need space, ask for space. It is not selfish nor insensitive to take time for yourself to heal. Please do not be hard on yourself for not being ‘strong enough’ in such circumstances, instead, we learn how to be strong enough through grief. Only through pure transparency with ourselves and our emotions can we make peace with them.

  • Remember That Your Life is Valuable

There are a lot of changes that follow loss, sometimes the change is so drastic that you begin to feel lost in the world. Just as how precious the deceased are to you, your life is just as precious to your family, your friends, and most importantly, your own self. With this mindset you will learn to find purposefulness in continuing on with the future and finding back your sense of self that was lost amidst the grief. 

  • Seek Help When You Need It

If you ever feel overwhelmed in the madness, reaching out to your support system is a wonderful method. You can also read self-help books pertaining to grief, seek help from your religion, your support group, or perhaps by paying a visit to a professional psychotherapist as a source of help for navigating past these mental challenges.

If you are accompanying someone who is grieving, here are some helpful ways you can engage:

  • Keep Them Company

Yes, you just need to stay with them. Remember that they do not need advice or positive talk at the moment, they simply need your presence. Having someone alongside you who is listening with all of their heart is one of the best forms of support. Even if you cannot be there in person, texting or calling them is another viable way of showing support. The feeling of being cared for will aid them through this difficult time.

  • Distractions

Whether it is house renovation, work, or travel planning, it can help people temporarily disconnect from reality and focus on the world around them. Exercise is always a good idea to help them feel uplifted naturally, so asking them for a walk if they are willing to do so is another effective form of distraction. If they do not want to engage in anything physically, providing them with a list of TV show recommendations may help occupy part of their mind.

  • Be of Help

There are a multitude of things you can do to help provide an extent of aid towards a grieving individual. For instance, you can help them with their chores, take their kids to the park, order food for them, etc., Simply by doing this you are offering substantial help and providing time and energy for the individual to deal with the chaos surrounding their loss.

  • Respect, Empathy, and Understanding

There are times when grieving individuals may have some irrational thoughts like bargaining with fate or impulsive, emotion-centred reactions such as blaming the hospital or the doctor. Try to give them space to sort things out and accommodate them with understanding. Everyone heals at their own pace, so your respect is an important buffer for them to feel supported and loved to learn to make peace with their bereavement. 

 “The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not get over the loss of the loved one; you’ll learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” – On Grief & Grieving, Kübler-Ross and Kessler

It is a heartbreaking part of the journey. But aren’t we blessed to ever have someone or something that was so hard to let go of in this life?

References

Kübler-Ross, E., & Kessler, David. (2014). On grief & grieving : finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss (Scribner trade pbk. ed.). Scribner.

Rosner, Rita, Rimane, Eline, Vogel, Anna, Rau, Jörn, & Hagl, Maria. (2018). Treating prolonged grief disorder with prolonged grief-specific cognitive behavioral therapy: Study protocol for a randomized controlled trial. Trials19(1), 241–241. https://doi.org/10.1186/s13063-018-2618-3

Megan Chang

MC

If you would like to speak with a counsellor about how we can support you, please contact us.

Find out more about Megan here.

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Dr. Jaideep Sengupta

Dr. Jaideep Sengupta

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Master of Counselling, Monash University, HK.

Languages: English.

Jaideep holds a PhD in Management (with a background in Psychology), and a Masters in Counselling. His approach to counselling draws on his academic background, his 25+ years of experience as a university professor with experience in Europe, Asia, and the US, as well as his formal counsellor training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Acceptance-Commitment Therapy. Jaideep believes that a few fundamentals underlie all counselling techniques: compassion, empathy, and non-judgmental listening. Mental health issues become worse when they are ignored, and when the individual does not have a safe space to speak out about those issues. Jaideep approaches every session, and every client, with a commitment to providing that safe space, and with the goal of maximizing each individual’s sense of self-worth. He looks forward to helping you embark on your own healing journey.

Focal areas of interest: Anxiety/Depression; Relationship Issues; Couples Therapy.

Qualifications:

  • MBA (Indian Institute of Management), PhD in Management (UCLA),
  • Master of Counselling, Monash University.
    • Trained in Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Levels 1 and 2)

If you have any questions, feel free to contact us here.

A free 20-minute intro consultation is available for new clients. Please email office@amindset.hk for more details.

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 Package of Four Individual Sessions Package of Four Couples Sessions

Packages must be used within 12 weeks of the first booking.

TESTIMONIALS for Jaideep:

 I am so grateful to have Dr Jaideep as my counsellor. I really look forward to every session, as his questions tend to give me a new perspective and a lot of self-discovery. The sessions are always very structured and well thought out. He also puts in a lot of time and effort to understand his clients. It’s clear that he revisits notes from all our sessions, and remembers the details from previous conversations. When appropriate, he ties these important details together and enables me to view the situations from a completely different lens. He modifies the sessions based on his client’s personality and working style. Using myself as an example, he will always give me some thought-provoking homework for me to reflect on, which I found tremendously helpful.

S.T. – Hong Kong – 4 July 23

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I am so glad I found the AMindset team with their low-cost and affordable counselling services. I cannot thank Jaideep enough for the counselling he provided. For too long I was dealing with anger and anxiety. Jaideep helped me to understand how these issues had developed and how they were affecting my life and those around me. In just 6 months Jaideep helped me develop a greater understanding of myself and enabled me with tools and techniques to get back to living the life I want to live.

Daniel Mullin

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Jaideep saved my marriage and made me mentally healthy again!

During COVID, I was very stressed both at work and at home. It was a turning point for me when I met Jaideep at AMindset. I could not thank him enough for his magic work – he helped me to unlock the inside struggle I had and patiently guided me to have more positive thinking. He is very observant and professional – he remembers things we said and draws connections for me to realise how things come together. Moreover, I particularly appreciate his wealth of experience and knowledge in life which enables him to offer different perspectives every time. Also, I want to take this opportunity to thank AMindset’s low-cost counselling services and Liz McCaughey!

Anonymous, Hong Kong

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I’m very grateful for the counselling services that Jaideep Sengupta provided. I was dealing with anxiety stemming from a painful childhood. In the period of six months, he helped me understand how the problem manifested and introduced me to ways that I could move on from the past, to be assertive and live a happy life, which I have long thought would never happen. 

Thanks to AMindset’s low-cost and affordable counselling services.

Anonymous + Hong Kong

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Jaideep’s Testimonials:

We are truly thankful for Jaideep’s help with our pre-marital counselling sessions. Although we approached this with an exploratory mindset, Jaideep was accommodating and professional in dealing with the issues we faced as a couple entering marriage. His sessions were well thought through and structured, but also remained flexible to help deal with and prioritise any ad hoc problems that arose. We are so blessed to have Jaideep’s wisdom in these sessions and will continue to draw on the techniques and tools we learned from him in our relationship journey ahead.  J. P. & M. K. – Hong Kong

I am so grateful to have Dr Jaideep as my counsellor. I really look forward to every session, as his questions tend to give me a new perspective and a lot of self-discovery. His sessions are always very structured and well thought out. He also puts in a lot of time and effort to understand his clients. It’s clear that he always revisits notes from all our sessions and remembers the details from previous conversations. He ties these important details together when appropriate and lets me view the situations from a completely different lens. He modifies the sessions based on his client’s personality and working style. Using myself as an example, he will always give me some thought-provoking homework for me to reflect on, which I found tremendously helpful.  S. T. – Hong Kong

I am so glad I found the AMindset team with their low-cost and affordable counselling services. I cannot thank Jaideep enough for the counselling he provided. For too long, I was dealing with anger and anxiety. Jaideep helped me understand how these issues developed and affected my life and those around me. In just 6 months, Jaideep helped me develop a greater understanding of myself and gave me the tools and techniques to get back to living the life I want to live.   Daniel Mullin – Hong Kong

Jaideep saved my marriage and made me mentally healthy again! During COVID, I was very stressed both at work and at home. It was a turning point for me when I met Jaideep at Amindset. I could not thank him enough for his magic work – he helped me unlock my inside struggle and patiently guided me to have more positive thinking. He is very observant and professional – he remembers things we said and draws connections for me to realise how things come together. Moreover, I particularly appreciate his wealth of experience and knowledge in life which enables him to offer different perspectives every time. Also, I want to take this opportunity to thank Amindest’s low-cost counselling services and Liz McCaughey!   Anon – Hong Kong

 

Removing the Mask

Removing the Mask

I arrived at my gym for an appointment with my trainer.  “Are you going to Lan Kwai Fong tonight?” he asked enthusiastically.  As a busy (and middle-aged) professional who’d been up since 5 am and still had several work obligations after this gym session, I figured the probability of hanging out in LKF on a school night was pretty low.  “Why on Earth would I do that?” I asked.  He responded, “Everyone’s going there at midnight to burn all their masks!  Can’t wait to see the bonfire!”.  While the thought of such a sight was pretty attractive after 945 days of mask-wearing, I immediately thought of the toxic fumes that would soon travel through central Hong Kong – fumes we could avoid breathing through a mask.  The irony was not lost on me.

I do not know if the LKF mask-burning event occurred, but the sentiment resonated.  It also prompted me to wonder how the people of Hong Kong would feel as they prepared for this change.  No doubt everyone considered what it meant for them and their loved ones.  And as I’ve been listening to friends and colleagues over the last 48 hours, I’ve come to the view that regardless of whether removing the mask mandate is “good” or ‘bad”,  it allows for personal choice, which empowers us all.

Let’s consider kids, for example.  As of Wednesday, millions of five-to-eight-year-olds will (strangely, after showing a negative RAT test to attend school in the first place) be seeing their teachers’ full faces, perhaps for the first time.  Children three years old or under do not know the world without masks.  It will be interesting to see how they interact with their friends now that they can see their whole faces.  It’s difficult enough as an adult to recognize people when they see them without a mask for the first time.  How we look at people and recognize their faces is different with masks on than with masks off.  Also, these little children have learned to read people’s emotions just by looking at their eyes.  What will it be like for them to see a full facial expression?  How will they interpret what they see? Ongoing research at places like the Institute of Psychiatry, Psychology & Neuroscience (IoPPN) at King’s College London links facial expression to healthy social interactions. Within a social context decoding facial expressions is an essential foundation for stable emotional relationships. It is a skill that helps to reduce anxiety.

And just as kids are not used to seeing their teachers’ full faces, the same is valid for teachers with their students.  One teacher shared a story of playing “guess the child” with her peers:  When the kids took their masks off to eat, the teachers tried to figure out who they were.  It wasn’t easy to recognize them, as the teachers had a mental image of the children’s faces, which was inaccurate.  They almost had to re-learn who Nancy, Tom, Millie, or James were, as they were unrecognizable without the masks.  Imagine the child who bounds up to her teacher with a big “HELLO!” and the teacher isn’t sure who she is.  This experience could result in children losing identity or sense of place, as the teachers they’ve become comfortable with don’t seem to know who they are anymore. How disempowering would that appear to the child that a person who is essential in their lives fails to recognize them?

And what about vulnerable people or those in hospital environments?  Most medical clinics allow their staff to choose whether or not to wear masks at work.  Patients with respiratory illness symptoms are still requested to wear masks. 

The mask mandate may have been removed, but does this mean we should no longer consider the needs of others?  A diverse city of 7.6 million people like ours does not thrive without the goodwill and tolerance of its people.  It’s worth remembering that Hong Kong people commonly wore masks when sick – well before any mandate and well before the rest of the world – out of consideration for others.  Perhaps there’s no need to burn all our masks, and we might instead choose to keep a few around for the greater good. As mentioned earlier, it is a choice, and being able to make choices is positive for our mental health.

Today, I also heard another example of two brothers – the younger one thrilled to see his friends’ faces, and the older one worried about his facial acne.   Female colleagues are talking about needing to spend money on makeup now that their whole faces are “on display” again.  Jokes about teeth whitening products selling like hotcakes and dentists being completely booked out.  For the last three years, the beauty ‘playing field’ was somewhat even, and the eyes were all that mattered.  Now our whole faces are back in the limelight. Face masks eased the anxiety of people with body dysmorphia or those anxious about their appearance. This anxiety will have to be dealt with by many people.

And another friend told me she was thrilled to see the mandate go for the simple reason that she’d be able toread lips again – a helpful skill when seeking assistance at various customer service counters around the city.  It was hard enough before trying to understand what the customer service agent was saying behind the plate glass window with tiny holes and poor quality intercom – add mask-wearing into the equation. This friend has said, “sorry, can you please repeat that?” about 17,000 times over the last three years. These are six words that she’s delighted to remove from her vocabulary.

There are so many stories about the effect of mask-wearing, but that is enough for now. Hong Kong is finally free from HAVING to wear a mask, now is the time for people to appreciate they have choices, and it is up to them what they choose to do.

Perhaps the take-home point is that we in HK must celebrate our adaptability and resilience – we kept masks on for 945 days, the most extended period of mask-wearing in the world.   Now they are no longer mandatory, and we can decide for ourselves.  I can choose to wear it or not, just as I can decide to go to Lan Kwai Fong on a Tuesday at midnight or go home to bed.  Free will and choice are empowering, and as you read this, make a choice for yourself and be empowered in the process of having that choice.

By the Team at AMindset

If you would like to speak with a counsellor about how we can support you, please contact us.

Other Articles by AMindset Counsellors:

The Mental Health Impact of Hong Kong’s Mask-Free Policy on Children, Anoush Davies

Re-entering the Outside World, Kelly Hutchison

Christmas Alone, Elise Phillipson 

Talking About Eating Disorders, Megan Chang 

“Doing” Leadership

“Doing” Leadership

“DOING” LEADERSHIP by KELLY HUTCHISON

As a long-time leader of teams, I often get asked for my thoughts on how to “do” leadership.  Just recently, I was talking with a bright, early-career entrepreneur who said, “My business is growing like crazy and I’m starting to hire people.  I don’t know how to manage and lead others.  What training course would you recommend? Or are there some books I can read?”

These questions are more common than I’d like them to be.  While they are well-intended, and it’s great that people who seek leadership responsibility actually want to do it well, the assumption (or perhaps hope) beneath the question is that if you read the right books, and/or take the right training course, you will be able to lead.

The question I asked this poor soul in return was, “regardless of the training course or the books – how will you know when you can manage and lead other people?  Does reading the books and attending the training mean you’re done?  Tick, you’re a good leader? Cross it off the list of things to do?”

The truth (like it or not) is that managing and leading others is not a destination.  It’s a practice.  Kind of like yoga.  In fact, yoga can teach us a lot about leadership.  No matter how good you get at yoga, there’s always something more to learn.  There’s more to practice.  You never FINISH working at yoga.  And if you’ve practiced yoga, you’ll know that some days are great – you nail the pose, you go deeper, you balance longer.  Some days are terrible.  You fall over, or you can’t hold even the most basic version of the pose you held for 10 minutes yesterday.  It requires focus, getting back into the pose even when you’ve fallen out of it six times already, and tuning in to your thoughts and feelings. Perhaps most importantly, it requires a willingness to push beyond your comfort zone – taking your pose just a bit further, without a guarantee that you’ll nail it the first time (knowing, in fact, that you’ll probably fall over).

The same is true for leadership.  This is because leadership exists within a human system.  One set of leadership behaviours which works perfectly well with one group of people may completely backfire with another.  Or a style of leadership that works when times are good, fails when times are difficult.  Some days are great – the team is humming, people are happy.  Others stink – business is underperforming, there’s tension between people, tough decisions to be made, and politics to manage.  Pesky human beings – they are so unpredictable.  

So what is this achievement-oriented entrepreneur to do, as the company grows and leadership becomes a necessity and requirement?  While I do not endorse the concept of a “checklist for good leadership”, in the spirit of helping these shooting stars along the journey, I offer the below as a non-linear process.

First: understand the baseline.  Look for clues.  Do you lose people from recruitment processes after they interview with you?  What’s your voluntary employee turnover rate?  If you use an employee engagement survey, what does the data tell you about how people feel about their manager and/or senior leaders?  You should also look inward.  Who’s been your favorite or most respected leader over the course of your career and why?  Who do you emulate as a leader?  

Second: ask your people what they need from you  – what motivates them to perform at their best.  Again, these pesky human beings are all slightly different.  But one thing remains consistent – people join great companies and leave bad managers..  The trick is to find out what “bad manager” means to your people – and practice behaving differently.

On the note of PRACTICE…this is a critical third (and ongoing) step. Just as you don’t become a star tennis player on day 1, and you can’t learn to play the piano with one lesson, leadership is a practice.  Remember that feeling of trying something new when you were a kid?  It’s frustrating and uncomfortable.  Get used to this feeling – in fact, seek it out in your workplace.  It means you’re learning – and learning is supposed to feel uncomfortable.  Try new behaviours.  Refine.  Try again.  Try again.  

Fourth – ask your people how you’re doing.  And “your people” should include those below you, above you, and beside you.  If you’re heading a start-up, maybe there’s no one technically above you.  Whose opinion do you respect and admire?  Do you have a board of directors? An investor or business partner?  Importantly, consider this guide for soliciting feedback (and ignore it at your peril).

Fifth (and arguably the most important element to include in your practice): Reflect on the feedback and use it as a source of data to improve your practice.  Extending the “learning to play the piano” analogy, consider how listening to a recording of your practice can shine a light on areas where you need more practice.  You listen, you think about what you want to work on, and then you work on it.  The same is true in leadership.  What can you learn from the feedback you received?  What should you try differently?

What can you learn?  What can you try?  

Sixth (or maybe first!) – ask for help. What professional athlete does not have a coach? What opera singer doesn’t study under another professional?  It can be very lonely at the top.  Cultivate your network, join leadership forums or communities, and consider a psychotherapist, counsellor or performance coach to help you reflect, learn, and grow.  As someone who has been practicing leadership for decades and advising others who are doing the same, I firmly subscribe to the view that every leader needs a therapist and coach.  

Finally – Repeat steps 1-6.  Often, and for as long as you hold a leadership role.  In doing so, you will exceed your own expectations and you will make a difference to your team, your company and potentially by extension, the world around you.  

After all – isn’t this why you became an entrepreneur in the first place?

Kelly Hutchison

Kelly Hutchison is a psychotherapist, counsellor and executive coach with aMindset, based in Hong Kong. 

To book an individual consultation or discuss mental health & wellness initiatives for your organization, contact Kelly on +852 9179 4454 or kellyamindset@gmail.com 

Other Articles by Kelly:

Find out more about Kelly here

Qualifications:

  • Master of Counselling, Monash University, Australia
  • Master of Applied Science (Innovation & Organisation Dynamics), RMIT University, Australia
  • Bachelor of Arts (Liberal Arts/Music), Florida State University, USA
  • Executive Coaching – Level Two Coach, Institute of Executive Coaching & Leadership, Australia
  • Member, Hong Kong Society of Counselling & Psychology
  • Member, Australian Counselling Association
  • Member, Hong Kong Professional Counselling Association

If you would like to speak with a counsellor about how Kelly or AMindset can support you, please contact us.

 



Byron McCaughey

Byron McCaughey

 

Business Counselling Solutions.

 

Byron’s coaching style is practical and actionable. The aim is to support entrepreneurs in their quest to build successful businesses while maintaining their mental health and wellbeing. 

Byron is currently a Business Coach in Residence for Imperial College London, where he supports founding teams ranging from FinTech to medical device companies. He was co-founder of a consumer technology start-up in London, which ran for three years before folding in 2020. Ten years of prior global business experience helped build the start-up into a successful venture-capital backed business. In addition, he takes an active role in supporting the mental health of the entrepreneurial community, regularly writing blog articles and hosting a podcast

Byron completed his full-time Master of Business Administration (MBA) at Imperial College in 2017 and is currently on an accredited pathway at the University of Melbourne to becoming a registered psychologist.
 
 
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